SOBERMOMLIFE Sober mom I Recovering Alcoholic | How to get sober

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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR TODDLER ABOUT GOD AND METAPHYSICS

Seriously. Gonna write and illustrate this one MYSELF! 💯💯💯 Amazon does NOT have this book. 

I don’t do traditional— that’s not my style. I do REAL LIFE. I teach my son that 

GOD IS REAL

ENERGY NEVER DIES

LOVE NEVER DIES

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE

LIFE IS MULTIDIMENSIONAL

IT’S OK TO HAVE FEELINGS— and that I’ll always be his safe place. 

Today, Donnie was having a MAJOR MELTDOWN— he was tired and just having a ton of emotions as a 3.5 year old little boy would. He was screaming soooooooo loudly, crying, hitting, kicking— THE WORKS and I sat with him. I did not leave him. 

I want him to know that I’m still here for him no matter what he’s going through or what he’s feeling.

I want him to know that I LOVE HIM NO MATTER WHAT. ❤️

I want him to know that he can show me his most vulnerable side and I’ll be here— ALWAYS— I’ll be here to LOVE HIM— ALWAYS. ❤️

I want him to know that I won’t reject him if he’s having a meltdown— It’s important to me that he knows that— and that he can actually SEE that I’m physically there with him. 

Now, don’t get me wrong, this isn’t easy to do— it’s HARD to STAY with him sometimes — especially when his meltdowns are super intense. But it passes. Eventually. Donnie’s tantrum does subside and when it does, he sees that I’M PHYSICALLY WITH HIM— SITTING NEXT TO HIM. 

LOVING HIM.

ACCEPTING HIM— just how he is. 

I never want Donnie to feel like he has to stuff his emotions— EVER. 


When I was a kid, I had some CRAZY INTENSE meltdowns and typically I was just sent to my room. So, there I was, ALONE— sitting with all these feelings I had no idea how to deal with. I felt so rejected. I learned that having “negative emotions” was “bad”— and that is completely not true. 

But I spent my whole life thinking that I was a “bad kid”. — the perfect set-up for addiction. 


I don’t blame my parents for “how I turned out”. I think I turned out to be a fucking BADASS. We live and we learn. And if we don’t learn, then we’re as good as DEAD. Fuck death. I’ve got A LOT of living to do! I take 💯% responsibility for where I am in life. That’s ON ME. No finger pointing— Nope not anymore. All about ACCOUNTAFUCKABILITY, baby! 


It’s about breaking the cycle and DOING BETTER. 💯💯💯

I love you so much, my sweet Donnie. ❤️