I ALWAYS LET DONNIE KNOW THAT I’M HIS “SAFE PLACE”

Tonight, my son wanted to tell his gram that he misses his dad. Donnie’s gram (my mom) has been staying with us for the past week. She flew in last Thursday from Minneapolis for Donnie’s 4th birthday (November 9, 2021)— she’s flying back to MN on 11/11. And then Donnie wanted me to come with him to gram’s bedroom, so he could tell her (with me by his side for extra encouragement/support). ❤️❤️❤️ Donnie stopped at gram’s bedroom doorway and said to her, “Gram, I miss my dad.”

Gram responded with, “Oh, I’m sorry, can I give you a hug? Can I hug you?”

Donnie kept shaking his head NO.

He did not want to hug her.

He just wanted to tell her how he felt.

PARENTING IN SOBRIETYMichelle WilliamsNovember 11, 2021safe place, toddler mom, emotional intelligence, emotional sobriety, mental health, support, mom, good parent, single mom, vulnerability, parent, parenting in sobriety, dealing with death of a loved one, talking to the dead, grieving process after death

TODAY I WAS THE MOST HORRIBLE PERSON

And I thought 2 weeks ago was bad. Ohhhhhh, fuck no. TODAY took the cake—- the big, horrible FUCK YOU CAKE. I was the most horrible person today to my son and I feel like complete SHIT. COMPLETE SHIT. You know when you’re being a dick and you say one shitty, snide comment and then you just don’t want to stop because you’re so mad???? Well, that’s kinda how it went down today. I mean DOOOOOWN. I turned off my phone all day because I felt so guilty about how I acted.

CRAZYMichelle WilliamsJuly 4, 2021emotional sobriety, boy mom, parenting in sobriety, how to deal with toddler tantrums, toddler mom, toddler

NOBODY TOLD ME IT WAS GOING TO BE LIKE THIS

I’m writing because it’s the only thing I have energy for— and I barely have enough energy to write. Nobody told me it was going to be like this. I’m not complaining— I’m just telling you where I’m at. I’ve been breastfeeding my son for 3 years and 7 months and nobody prepared me for how my body would respond when I stopped breastfeeding— how could they? I didn’t even know the questions to ask…….

BREASTFEEDINGMichelle WilliamsJune 25, 2021mom, how to deal with toddler tantrums, toddler mom, emotional sobriety

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR TODDLER ABOUT GOD AND METAPHYSICS

I don’t do traditional— that’s not my style. I do REAL LIFE. I teach my son that

GOD IS REAL

ENERGY NEVER DIES

LOVE NEVER DIES

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE

LIFE IS MULTIDIMENSIONAL

IT’S OK TO HAVE FEELINGS— and that I’ll always be his safe place.

PARENTING IN SOBRIETYMichelle WilliamsJune 7, 2021parenting in sobriety, parent, good mom, good parent, boy mom, toddler mom, toddler, ways to deal with stress, how to deal with stress without drinking, stress management, safe place, emotional sobriety, emotions, meltdown, how to deal with toddler tantrums

IF IT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU, YOU'LL MAKE TIME FOR IT

IT’S ABOUT MAKING MY SOBRIETY A TOP PRIORITY. IT’S ABOUT TAKING FUCKING ACTION. So, tonight I went to an online zoom AA meeting— I had to— I needed to— I was sooo fucking irritated today. I did not want to continue being an asshole to my son. I’m just burnt the fuck out. I’m going to bed waaaaay too late, then I’m utterly exhausted when I wake up early the next morning. Yes, I KNOW I need to go to bed earlier…..BUT I want some downtime for myself. I want time to dick around on my

DON’T FUCKING LABEL MY SON

‼️I said EXACTLY THIS on Thursday, 11/26/20 (Thanksgiving).‼️

That shut them up real quick. Don’t fucking label my son.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong if my child does not want to talk to you. I’m HAPPY and PROUD that my son is hesitant to talk to “strangers”— that means he’s less likely to follow them inside a white van.

Seriously. Fucking stop it.

‼️ I think being selective in who

PARENTING IN SOBRIETYMichelle WilliamsNovember 28, 2020pet peeve, don’t fucking label my son, labels, parenting in sobriety, good parent, parent, mom, toddler mom, confidence, good mom, boy mom, my child’s advocate, child advocate, advocate

DOING WHATEVER IT TAKES

“I don’t know how you do it.” — I can’t tell you how many times people have said this to me. You know how I do it?— I think of my son and what he needs to have a beautiful, great life. Everything I do, I do it for Donnie. Donnie inspires me to be my best self— how cool is that? 🖤 Had to take a break there— Kahlua just peed on the carpet!! Wtf?? When I let her out to

MINDSETMichelle WilliamsNovember 1, 2020persistence, hard work pays off, mindset, how to stay sober, toddler mom, single mom, boy mom, parenting in sobriety, sober, i love my son, emotional intelligence, emotional sobriety

GRATITUDE

I’ve had a range of emotions today. My day was really going great and then earlier this evening Kahlua straight-up peed on the rug downstairs. WTF?? She hasn’t peed on the carpet like that since she was 6 months old!— when I first got her!! I let her out like a million times, so I don’t know what happened. Maybe she just really

GRATITUDEMichelle WilliamsOctober 16, 2020gratitude, grateful, i'm so grateful i have a healthy child, physical health, healthy child, how to stay sober, parenting in sobriety, good parent, parent, mom, toddler mom, sober

THIS IS WHAT LIFE’S ALL ABOUT

We had SUCH an awesome Monday! Donnie and I went out for a BIG ADVENTURE to Old Navy!! Whooo hooo! We haven’t been to a clothing store in 8 months!! Donnie has an absolute BLAST! I’m telling, ya, THIS is what life is ALL ABOUT!! — Spending quality time with my son whilst he’s having a blast dancing to the blues music at Old Navy! I love this little guy so much, y’all. My heart is filled with so much joy and love. I’m so blessed and so grateful God gave me such a perfect child. Thank you, God. Thank you.

Here are a couple videos from our outing today! Enjoy!

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I JUST CAN’T TODAY

Do y’all ever have those days where everything just seems to take 18 times as long as “normal”?? Fuck…..it’s been one of those days. Donnie took a late nap, then, of course, he got up late. And guess what that means??— yep, he got to bed late…..like laaaaaaate. I think it was close to 10pm when he went to sleep. Ugh….toddlers need a ton of sleep— I’m well aware of this, but sometimes your nights just don’t go as planned. And you know what??— that’s fucking OK. Of course, it’s OK NOW— now that

PARENTING IN SOBRIETYMichelle WilliamsSeptember 28, 2020parenting in sobriety, good parent, toddler, toddler mom, exhausted, sleep, sober, sobriety, emotional sobriety, how to stay sober, how to deal with stress without drinking, need vacation, patience, love, staying calm, god help me